When it comes to swinging, there is a lot of information out there for experienced swingers, but not as much for people who are just starting. This can be intimidating and confusing, especially if you are new to the lifestyle and don't know where to start. In this blog post, we will discuss some tips for beginners that will help make the process easier and more comfortable.
One of the most important things to remember is that swinging is supposed to be fun! Don't put too much pressure on yourself and just go with the flow. If something doesn't feel right, don't hesitate to speak up. The key is communication; make sure you and your partner are on the same page and that you both feel comfortable.
Early on you'll need to have frank conversations with your partner about what you're comfortable doing and not doing. Not doing so can be catastrophic. Communication is everything in the lifestyle. What will initially be difficult conversations will end up being exciting later on. It's all about growth.
Set some ground rules. For example, one rule can be to start with a small group of people you know and trust. This way you'll feel more comfortable in the beginning stages when it comes time for your first encounter as well as later on down the line if things go awry.
Make sure you both are on the same page with everything. It's always good to go into these conversations with a clear head, no alcohol. You don't want your judgment clouded or thoughts out of whack when discussing something so important as this lifestyle change.
When it comes to setting ground rules, many couples decide that they only want to swing with each other. This is a personal preference and you should do what makes you both comfortable.
Another thing to consider when starting is the type of environment you want to be in. Do you feel more comfortable going to a club or do you prefer private parties? There are pros and cons to both, so it's important to think about your needs and what will make you most comfortable before making a decision.
If at any time during the swinging process you feel uncomfortable, don't hesitate to speak up! Swinging is supposed to be fun; if something doesn't feel right or doesn't work, then it's OKAY that too. Don’t let yourself be pressured into doing something that you’re not ready for.
The most important thing is to relax, have fun, and communicate with your partner. These tips will help get you started on the right foot!